What is a homemaker? Homemaker is made up of two words: home and maker. The answer to the question of what is a homemaker is that a homemaker is one who makes a home.
Logically then we ask: “what makes a home?” For Christian homemakers, the question is, what does the Bible say about our homes, and what guidance does the Bible give us for becoming a biblical homemaker?
#1 Homemaker vs. Housewife
“The LORD’s curse is on the house of the wicked, but he blesses the home of the righteous.” Proverbs 3:33
House of the wicked. Home of the Righteous. The wicked live in houses, and the righteous live in homes.
What is the difference between a house and a home? A house is just a building. In contrast, a home is an atmosphere created within the walls of a house. A house can be bought. A home must be cultivated and built.
What is the spiritual difference between a house and a home? The home of the righteous is blessed by the Lord. A house becomes a home when the Lord is the Lord of those in the home. Cultivating the spiritual health of a family is essential to being a homemaker.
#2 A Homemaker’s Priority is Her Home
“Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.” Titus 2:4-5
Homemakers don’t need to spend all their time at home, yet home should be their primary focus. (I would argue that home and family should be the primary focus for all Christian parents.)
The virtuous ideal woman of Proverbs 31 did not spend all her time at home. She was buying and selling land. She was taking her goods to the marketplace. All the things she did, however, were in service to her family.
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In this passage from Titus, women are encouraged to be busy at home. The world tells us that our identity comes from gathering titles and awards for ourselves.
However, the Bible teaches us that relationships are where true value is found. The relationships with our spouse and our children, as we seek to live our calling as Christians, should be cherished and nurtured.
“A housewife’s work…is surely, in reality, the most important work in the world…your job is the one for which all others exist.” C.S. Lewis
#3 A Homemaker Creates a Space that is Peaceful & Secure
“My people will live in peaceful dwelling places, in secure homes, in undisturbed places of rest.” Isaiah 32:18
Homemakers are called to create a gathering place that is peaceful and secure. We need to train up our children with discipline and self-control so that they are peaceful, and so that we know peace.
We need to be on guard so that our homes are secure from harmful outside influences. Those influences could be people that might take advantage of our children. It also includes what our family sees on their screens and bullying between siblings.
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We must deal with yelling and anger – our children’s and ours! Anger does not bring about peace. If we are to create a peaceful home, we must cultivate a peaceful heart.
#4 Christian Homemakers Cultivate a Place to Belong Forever
“Then Naomi said to her two daughters-in-law, “Go back, each of you, to your mother’s home. May the LORD show you kindness, as you have shown kindness to your dead husbands and to me.” Ruth 1:8
Ruth’s daughters-in-law were now widows. When they were married, they never dreamed that they would be going back home. Yet, there wasn’t really any place else to go.
Homemakers are called to create a place of welcome for our children and others. We are called to create a space where people can come just as they are and be loved just for being a child of God.
We do not have to compromise on God’s teaching on sin to extend the same kindness that Jesus did even to the prostitute that washed his feet with her tears.
#5 Homemakers Create a Place for Discipleship
“He began to speak boldly in the synagogue. When Priscilla and Aquila heard him, they invited him to their home and explained to him the way of God more adequately.” Acts 18:26
Homemakers created a place for discipleship. Homemakers know that a home is only a home because the Spirit of the Lord is in that place. A home is a place where the word of God should be taught and preached.
Homemakers are called to have the hospitality of Priscilla and disciple not only their own children but others in need as well.
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#6 Homemaking Creates Fellowship & Communion
“Every day, they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts.” Acts 2:46
It was the practice of the early church to meet in each others’ homes daily for worship, fellowship, and communion. Our homes should be a place for gathering the Body of Christ, not once or twice a year for a party, but on a regular basis.
The early church did daily life together. The result? Daily the Lord added to their number those that were being saved!
A homemaker seeks to cultivate a space filled with glad and sincere hearts. A homemaker seeks to build fellowship and communion with other Christians.
Occasionally, a homemaker might have the elements of communion, the bread and wine, in her home to show the sacredness of this special space.
#7 A Blessed Home Reflect Our Heavenly Home
“How lovely is your dwelling place, LORD Almighty! My soul yearns, even faints, for the courts of the LORD; my heart and my flesh cry out for the living God. Even the sparrow has found a home, and the swallow a nest for herself, where she may have her young— a place near your altar, LORD Almighty, my King and my God. Blessed are those who dwell in your house; they are ever praising you.” Psalm 84:1-4
Our perfect home is in Heaven. Our homes will always be imperfect compared to the Lord’s home. I love how the dwelling of the Lord is not described as an impressive, perfect palace.
Instead, the Bible tells us that it is a house in which even a bird is welcome to make a nest for her babies. God creates an incredible space of welcome.
Are we creating homes where we focus on the loveliness of heaven? Do hearts cry out for the living God?
Our greatest desire as a homemaker should be that our home reflects the character and feel of God’s home.
Warning: Do Not Make an Idol Out of Homemaking
“Truly I tell you, Jesus said to them, “no one who has left home or wife or brothers or sisters or parents or children for the sake of the kingdom of God will fail to receive many times as much in this age, and in the age to come eternal life.” Luke 18:29-30
The Bible calls wives to be homemakers, but we must be careful not to let our houses become idols. We know that the value of a true home is not found in the cleanliness of the floors or the beauty of the décor.
Instead, the eternal significance of a home is found in how much our home resembles our home to come in Heaven. Our focus should be on asking whether God’s Spirit dwells in that place, and are we raising disciples.
Yet, we still must guard our hearts against our homes becoming an idol. Someday our children will grow up and fly from our nest. They will go out into the world to serve others. Some may stay close to home, and others may fly all over the world.
Jesus’s words above remind us that we are called to leave behind those precious relationships of home sometimes in our quest to follow Him. Jesus always comes first. Leading others to the Heavenly Home is always the most crucial home for us to cultivate.
What is a homemaker? A Christian homemaker is ultimately one who helps others find a home in Jesus.
The voice behind FaithfulMotherhood.com is Jyn. She is a veteran homeschool mom of three. More than just a pastor’s wife, she holds a Master of Divinity degree and has served in church leadership for over 20 years. Her passion is equipping parents to live out their calling as the number one faith influencer for their children. She longs to see moms empowered by God’s Word and transferring that love to their children through daily Bible study and family devotions.